Classic ungrateful Brenda

I do all the laundry, clean the kitchen and empty/fill the dishwasher. I've got a bit of a routine and it works. She cooks and does the bathrooms. Division of labour is the key. Took us a few years and many arguments to settle into our lanes and now it's fine.

I'm willing to bet it's pretty far off the norm, I'm sure there are people who do but even the most cleanliness obsessed person I know isn't changing them that often.

I would love to hear you explain your train of tought here.

I mean they refer to their partner so there is no way of deducting the gender.

And they only refer to singular event, so it is impossible to know if they have only played the whole week or if the original commentter just got frustrated about the one thing.

I would also love to know what education level you are talking about, where jumping in to conclusions from incomplete data is acceptable reason to act superior.

Sweating that much in your sleep is not as common as you think.

I've met few people who do sweat so much if they are heavy drinkers at night though. I have an ex that started drinking heavy when his best friend died and you could see the sweat stains in the morning. Never used to be like that before he started drinking. Thankfully he was raised to do his own laundry like any capable adult should. Didn't save the mattress though.

Even medically with dust allergies they perscribe to change once a week.
Weirdly they print it out too to hand it to you like it's a guide.

And I'll take that over being an entitled asshole towards their wife any time.

Next!

Better than a misogynist.

Not the insult you think it is.

About a much as a banana costs.

the battle lines were drawn with soap

Have you considered going out, breathing some fresh air, maybe just walk, or go to a café, or a bar...?

That should help put things back into perspective.

That's not true. I put dirty dishes in the sink and next day, they are clean in the closet.

Oh I think Reddit wins that category

Better than a misogynist

So you're well trained and delusional, got it.

Good luck, hopefully being well trained pays off.

Nah, never been outside

Yeah. You need to listen to the lyrics a few get it.

I watched a video once and it was like 17 steps to do it so I couldn't actually follow it. I did get the put the corners inside each other part though, and if you do that it gets you at least somewhat folded enough to stack with the rest of them.

Honestly - I don't know. I could swear that is not the comment I was replying to, but it's doesn't appear to have been edited.

Sorry.

I was not angry with my original reply, it could jot in anyway be reasonably taken as angry. I am however a bit frustrated now, in particular with your response to me. To quote what you said,

“Somehow this convo became about humans being hunters and what not. And not the original conversation about dishes and dragons.”

To also quote you’re first comment you said,

“Isn't this how we function evolutionarily? Like in a hunter and gatherers society, men were predominantly the ones required to do "one-hit" labour like hunting, whereas women were predominantly the ones doing "continual" labour like gathering food.”

You are the one who brought it up. Saying it “somehow” came up like you did is disingenuous and implies my argument is unrelated and can therefore be dismissed.

That is what is now making me a bit frustrated and why I felt it necessary to clear up the way you misconstrued things in your reply to me.

You are free to not respond if you do not want to. If you don’t want to continue I will respect that.

I also want to make sure that everyone reading this understands that them not replying or wanting to end the discussion should not be taken to mean anything one way or another.

I feel bad for making you frustrated. It wasn't my intention. I think these text based format just makes things weird for us. You sound like someone I could have had a nice conversation on this topic without frustrations if we were discussing IRL.

For what its worth, my original intent was to discuss different approaches to distribution of labour rather than talking about hunter gatherer society. I have weird way of talking where i can't help but justify my reasoning, so hunters gatherer was the justification for different physiology. And different physiology was the setup for the discussion on distribution of labour.

What I found strange about myself is that I (and so many others including you) believe in equal distribution of labour in household despite having different physiology. But I support proportional distribution of labour when it comes broader society ie rich and priviledge should contribute more than poor and underpriviledged.

And I kinda find this strange about myself (also generally) that we have different views when looking at society versus household.

If i make a claim that we can't know actual capability between a couple therefore equal distribution of labour is fair then a similar argument can be made about rich vs poor.

Anyways, I have a bad habit of making everything too political, this is a meme community so maybe i need to dial down that political side of me.

I think the heart of the difference between our views from what I’ve been able to understand from you is this. You view biological differences between men and women as having a sufficient enough reason to support gender roles if in the event the capability of a couple is known.

I view the biological differences as something that should only be considered from a health perspective I.e. crash test dummy’s designed for men and ones designed for women to ensure proper safety testing.

For me the biological differences shouldn’t be considered whether we know a couple’s capabilities or not. Humans are an extremely varied species with lots of overlap between women and men.

There are women who are tall and muscular and men who are short and skinny. There are men who are tall and skinny and women who are short and muscular.

Ultimately the biggest factor is lifestyle and not genetics. A female firefighter could absolutely out strength many males even if she’s short because she works out regularly.

In short I don’t think biological differences are significant enough to be taken into actual consideration outside of specific circumstances like described above. While you as I understand it do believe them to be significant enough a factor to be given consideration if the differences between a couple are known.

While I wouldn't call it a straight or middle school thing, I would consider it highly toxic to post your relationship issues online instead of discussing them with your spouse and fixing/ending the relationship.